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Six tips for getting through your divorce

On Behalf of | Dec 20, 2021 | Family Law |

Going through divorce is tough. You may have spent years, or even decades, building a life with another person and now, in seemingly the blink of an eye, it’s all unraveling. While we spend a lot of time on this blog talking about the legalities of divorce, this week we want to do something a little different. We want to focus on your overall well-being.

Ways you can better cope with divorce

Merely getting by day-to-day during divorce can be challenging and sometimes downright overwhelming. Take some time to think about the items listed below, though. They may help make getting through your divorce just a little bit easier.

  • Give yourself a break: A lot of people push themselves to be at the top of their game in every aspect of their life on a daily basis. That’s hard to maintain when you’re going through divorce. Give yourself permission to operate at something less than 110%. This can lift a burden off of your shoulders and give you the opportunity to breathe. This is important to finding peace of mind and centering yourself before you have to deal with whatever divorce legal issues may be confronting you.
  • Find support: Reach out to family and friends for support when you need it. Just talking about what’s going on can alleviate the burden. Also, don’t overlook the importance of support groups and mental health professionals. Turning to them for support doesn’t mean that you’re weak. It means that you’re strong enough to recognize when you need some additional help. Find comfort in seeking this support, as you may need it in both the short- and the long-term.
  • Take care of your physical and mental health: Divorce can take a toll on your overall well-being. Do your best to take care of yourself. This may mean implementing a healthy diet, exercising, and avoiding substance abuse. Speaking with a therapist can help ease the mental toll of divorce, too.
  • Try to avoid conflict: This can be difficult, especially when you struggle to get along with your former spouse. But avoiding conflict can be key to reaching a divorce settlement and ensuring that post-divorce interactions are more amicable. This can reduce your amount of stress and make the overall divorce process just a little bit easier.
  • View this as an opportunity: It can be hard to do but try to view your divorce as a chance to focus on yourself. Turn toward your interests and the things that you never got to do during your marriage. You might find a spark in your life by exploring these areas. Also, try your best to remain positive, knowing that you’ll eventually find a new normal and, at some point, your divorce will just seem like a distant memory.
  • Maintain stability and routine with your kids: If your divorce involves children, then you’ll want to minimize the impact that your marriage dissolution has on them. This, in turn, can make post-divorce life easier and less stressful for you.

Know that there’s a bright future ahead of you

We know that you may be feeling like your future is bleak, but there is a bright future ahead of you. You just need to focus on yourself and let a legal professional like those at our firm deal with the rest. Hopefully then you can move into your post-divorce life with confidence.